Episode 5: Toys, Boys & Surrender

In Episode 5 of Pleasure Bound Kelsey and Kate explore “toys and boys,” pleasure practices, and navigating intimacy in changing bodies. Kate shares a vulnerable solo experience blending microdosing, meditation, and full-body pleasure, while Kelsey opens up about long-distance dating, sexting, and intimacy as a quadriplegic. Together, they touch on erotic mysticism, surrender, and the power of honesty and humor—This conversation is funny, raw, vulnerable—and full of the kind of truth that makes you feel less alone in your own body.



Because pleasure isn’t about getting it “right.”



It’s about being present for what’s actually here.



And sometimes… that means letting it be a little weird.



References:



Sexual Outlaw, Erotic Mystic: The Essential Ida Craddock (https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1578634768/erotologynet-20) By: Vere Chappell



Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power; A Method for Getting What You Want by Getting Off on What You Don't (https://www.amazon.com/Existential-Kink-audiobook/dp/B081QVG9LW/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1XYBNB2IGJ8KB&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.MzqxaarK6HjsGWTO7oA8nsm_45ekm-CMIapW2t1sm80EKO26-v5N3PhbP992g5Y_g1mnvAjE8dOvsNLpw2HVzWBSmA7OOWv5jVjaZemcsdU1p4Ca9EPMeGC2Z5v0mGmOd9VSIIunfl0S5GM2fyQv5L7i9fKJPVfzPhFKZ5tgZ-i0sokV25mmHQEGCgYXYTUUXcfbWDjh_urCk8WjpYBpHmB-wWlMNdn-hFdQhWDahHw.aVA3D2HN78eTdbrGBNgIKHoAyvqCf_8eIiOsWR5Y4fc&dib_tag=se&keywords=Existential+kink&qid=1774918492&s=books&sprefix=existential+kink%2Cstripbooks%2C186&sr=1-1) By: Carolyn Elliott PhD 



Dr. Joe Dispenza (https://drjoedispenza.com/)



Product Links:



Satisfyer Pro 2 Clitoral Vibrator: 2nd Generation - Vibrators | Adam & Eve https://share.google/ycTOBOdBrHCMZgDAm



EaZyHold Aqua Universal Cuff Hand Gripper, Silicone Adaptive Grip Aid https://share.google/cc6rPsC8uIm6ibvVR



Timestamps:



(00:00) – Pleasure Bound Manifesto



(01:36) – Episode Setup and Themes



(02:44) – Kate Homework Wild Solo Session



(04:15) – Erotic Mystic Inspiration



(10:47) – Microdose, Crystal 



(16:36) – Alien Orgasm Storytime



(22:15) – Power in Surrender



(23:20) – New Toys and The Rose



(24:54) – Kelsey’s Long Distance Spark



(27:30) – Dropping Expectations in Sexual Exploration



(30:40) – Meditation Meets Pain



(32:20) – Let go - Be Your Own Tender Lover



(37:50) – Intimacy With Colostomy



(40:54) – Keeping It Weird and Real



(42:37) – Sexting as Energy Play



(44:44) – Dating Older With Vulnerability



(47:08) – Letting Go of Performance Pressure



(47:10) – Owning Your Body and Truth



(50:20) – Herpes Disclosure - Shame / Support



(53:27) – Curiosity as Self Discovery



(55:20) – Kelsey’s Homework -  Playful Desires



(56:28) – Toy Stories and Pop Culture



(58:30) – Kate’s Homework - Sensual Exploration 



(1:01:11) – Holistic Caregiving & Sexual Health



(1:03:43) – Sensory Tools & Sex Toys - Show and Tell



(1:06:10) – Toy Intensity, “Sloth Sex” & Alchemizing Desires



(1:11:19) – Positioning Hacks for Quads