Sex, Dating, and Finding Your Pleasure After Divorce with Dr. Lexx Brown-James

In this episode, DB welcomes back three-time guest Dr. Lexx Brown-James (https://www.instagram.com/lexxsexdoc/) to talk about what she's learned from working with folks in relationships for almost two decades. From gaining confidence to giving yourself the time you need to the dating apps, let's break down some of what post-divorce folks might experience in dating. What is it like getting back into the dating pool after a divorce? In one word, according to Dr. Lexx: intentional.


ABOUT OUR GUEST: Dr. Lexx Brown-James, LMFT, CSE, CSES (https://lexxsexdoc.com/) is a premiere sexologist centering pleasure as a connective tool for shame free sexuality education and building intimate partner connection. As an AASECT certified sexuality educator and supervisor, Dr. Lexx lectures, trains, and does therapy for academic, professional and general audiences. As a multiple time best seller, Dr. Lexx is an international sexologist. Featured in prominent media like CNN, Essence, It Gets Better, Scary Mommy, and Therapy for Black Girls, Dr. Lexx's goal is to educate others about sexuality from womb to tomb.


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